Life is moving at an incredibly fast pace right now. I feel like it’s just been moving at this pace for a few years now. I remember thinking to myself at the beginning of last year that I’m going to slow it down. I’m going to stop saying yes to everything and start saying no for the sake of our family. I have to a certain extent because sometimes you just need time together. Weekdays were already hectic during the school year, throw in sports, birthday parties, family gatherings, building a house and traveling and there isn’t a whole lot of time left. And time is one thing that we can’t get back so I made a decision to spend what little time we do have when we are home, together, as a family.
Some may say, “Well you travel so often and you are always together as a family. Isn’t that a lot of time together?” Yes it is and it’s time that we treasure and are so grateful for. We make many memories and experience incredible (and some not so incredible) things together. Then we get home and it’s back to the daily grind. We are trying to find a balance of time together and all the other time spent with family and friends plus all the other stuff, when we are home. Some months it’s easy and others it’s more difficult.
One place we can always go that we can disconnect from the daily grind and reconnect as a family is the land. Even when we are having to make decisions regarding the house build we don’t feel the pressure of life and everything that needs to be done. We feel peace. I’ve said it numerous times but this calmness settles in over everyone and we lose track of time.
Those sweet faces of the cows help too.
In the spring and summer it’s the sound of crickets chirping, birds calling to each other, the woodpecker that has made his home in a tree, the wind in the leaves, the mooing of the cows, even the sounds of the neighbors donkey. In the winter and fall it’s the quiet, the stillness of everything. The crunching of the leaves under our feet and the smell of the cooler air. The bareness of the trees and being able to see across all the acreage.
The house is coming along and hopefully we will be moving in sometime this fall. We cannot wait to be out there all the time, to make our home and fully embrace the peace we feel when we are out there. I’m sure it may change some, there will be maintenance of the land, the animals, cleaning of the house, schooling, life, but my hope is that it will always be a place we can find refuge from the grind.
This is why we didn’t give up on this dream. The peace we feel when we are there isn’t a feeling that we could let go.
Now our challenge is finding a way to translate that feeling of peace into our life when we aren’t there, when we are at work, out running errands, having a difficult day, whatever it is we are doing that makes us feel overwhelmed or busy. Finding that peace everywhere and finding a healthy balance of how our time is spent.
When I start to think about this concept of balancing our time it starts to overwhelm me and then I go down a rabbit hole of questions and emotions. What do we cut out? What do we say no to? Do we travel as much as we have planned? Do we do sports? Should I sign them up for that camp or that class? Do we really need to go out on that date night? Have we spent enough time with family and friends? The list of questions goes on and on but it all comes back to what is best for our family. And for our family it’s keeping things simple. Letting our kids be kids and being together.
One of things I am looking forward to the most about homeschooling is the time we will spend together (I talked about it in this post). It’s definitely going to help with the slowing down and enjoying our time together but there is still the challenge of fitting in time with others. Who knows? It could be the answer to our balancing of time issue, it could allow for more time with family and friends. That’s what I’m hoping. However it plays out, I pray that I can find that healthy, happy balance with it all. If you have any tips, send them my way.